カウンセラー・人生相談室をされている方の集まりで、先日は「お金について何でも思い浮かぶこと」を話し合った。
「ためるのが好き」とか「入る以上に遣ってしまう」とかいろいろあったけれど、「財布に入ってきたお金には、「このお金が世のため人のためになるように遣われますように」と念じてから遣う」と言っていた人がいて、すごく好感がもてた。
お金って自分も助けてくれるけど、他の人も助ける、まさに回り回っていくもの。大事にしよう！と思った。
あと、「余るほどたくさんのお金があったらどうするか」というお題もあり、ざっくり分けて「自分のために遣う」という人と「他の人のために、慈善団体とかに有効活用してもらう」という人がいて。
どちらも可能性があるだろう。どんな経済状況かは、今のその人その人によって違うから。
でも、主催の人が、「自分のために、旅行に行ったり、美味しいものを食べたり、値段を気にせずに買い物をしてみたりしたあと、それでもお金が残ったら、どうするか、ということについて考えてみてもいいかもね。」と。本当に…。自分に余力があるからこそ、人に与えることができる。
介護施設で働いている人は「80歳の高齢者、お金持ちの人がとっても多い。けど、足腰立たなくなって、自由に好きなところに行けなかったら、お金をもっていても遣うことがない。健康の大事さ、高齢になって動けなくなるまでの時間の大事さをひしひしと感じる」とも。ほんと、深い…。一億円あっても、おそらく、若い時の体力と気力はもどせないだろうから。
あと、「愛を受けとることの大事さ」。
主催者さん自身も、「人におごられるのは絶対いやだった。自分で払えるし！」と思っていたけれど、今は、「いいの？ありがとう。」と言えるようになった。そして、心がすごく軽くなったし、自分も心から、相手のためにおごってあげたり、何かをしてあげたいと思うようになった。とのこと。
平さんの恋愛心理学講座でも言われていたことが、ここで結び付いた。「何でも喜んで受け取ってくれる人は、愛しやすい人」。だから、好かれるし、愛される。過度に遠慮したり、いろいろ言い訳したり、何か下心があるんじゃないの？と勘ぐったりする相手には、人は愛を与えたいと思わなくなるから。ということで。
なんか、いろいろ繋がってきていて、面白かった。
At a meeting hosted by a counselor, we recently discussed "anything that comes to mind about money".
One person said, "I like to hoard money" or "I spend more than I earn". I really liked what someone said, "When I receive money in my wallet, I pray that it will be used for the good of the world." because money helps you, but it also helps others, and it is something that goes around and around. That is a nice habit.
There was also a question about what to do if you had a lot of extra money, and there were two types of people: those who said they would spend it on themselves and those who said they would give it to charity or some other organization to make good use of it for others.
Both would be valid depending on the financial situations for each person.
But the person who hosted the event said, "You might want to think about what you would do with the money if you still had some left over after you'd travel, eat good food, and shop without worrying about the price, for yourself." That is really true... I can give to others because I have extra money.
A person working at a nursing home said, "There are so many rich people in their 80s at my work. But if they can no longer stand on their feet and cannot go anywhere they want to go, they have no use of their money. I strongly feel the importance of good health and the time you have until you become too old to move around as you wish." It really is profound because even if I had 100 million yen, I probably would not be able to regain the strength and energy of my youth.
Also, "the importance of receiving love" was a discussed.
The organizer herself said, "I never wanted to be treated by others, especially a man. I was thinking, I can pay for it myself! But now I'd say, 'Are you sure? Thank you.' I feel so much lighter, and I also feel that I would be happy to do something for others, like buying them a drink.
This is where what Taira-san said in his love psychology course came together. A person who is willing to receive anything is an easy person to please and love. That is why they are liked and loved. If someone is overly reserved, makes various excuses, or doubts if others had an ulterior motive for doing something for them, then it would be hard to love them because they are not taking it. That's what I've been thinking about, coincidentally.
It was interesting to see many things getting connected.
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