ゴスペラーズ村上さんのInstagram。谷村新司さんを悼む言葉と、彼らのエピソード。
https://www.instagram.com/p/Cygh7erJRNY/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
数日前に亡くなった谷村新司さんと、ゴスペラーズはとても懇意にしていたらしい。
でも最初の出会いは苦いもので、まだ大学生だった村上さんと黒沢さんは、谷村さんのライブでコーラスを依頼されたのに、リハーサルに遅刻してクビになってしまった。直後はあまり反省していなかった村上さん。でも、自腹で、自分の出るはずだったコンサートのチケットを買って見に行ったら、谷村さんの歌にも、観客の熱狂にも圧倒され、恥ずかしさと申し訳なさでいっぱいだったそう。時は流れ、ゴスペラーズが売れてきたとき、「君たちの歌声にはパワーがある! 頑張れ! それから、もう遅刻はするなよ」と優しく声をかけてくださり、それからも折に触れて共演したり食事したり、だったそう。こういうことがあったから、ゴスペラーズはあんなに謙虚なのか!
大人になると、愛を持って叱ってくれる人と出会うことは稀になる。何かやらかしたら、黙って離れていく人がほとんどだ。叱って、許して、導いて、応援してくれる、って、ものすごい人間力がないとできない。だから、大切にしなければならない、と村上さんは悔い改めて思ったんだろうな。
お手本にしたい、慕っていたフロントランナーがいなくなってしまい、喪失感が大きいだろうなあ。村上さんが、悲しみを共有できる人たちの輪の中に、いられますように。
愛をもってわざわざ叱ってくれる人が滅多にいないからこそ、自分の言動について、自分から、どうだったか、人を不快にしていないか、自問自答して、大切な人には尋ねてみるのが吉、だと思う。実際思ったこと、感じたことをわざわざ伝えて、波風を立ててまで、自分と良い関係を築こうとしてくれる人がいるというのは、大変ありがたいことだ…(その人の言うことが的を射ているならば)。言われた瞬間には、自分を守ろうと必死になってしまうかもしれないけれど。そんな反応も含めて自分だし、分かっていれば一呼吸置ける。そんなことを考えた。
それにしても、この村上さんの投稿へのコメントが、優しさと思いやりに満ちあふれている。どうしたらそんな素晴らしい返答ができるのか…?!全員カウンセラーさんですか??と思う。ぜひこんな風になりたい。ので、手法を研究すると、相手から聴いた内容を要約して、その上で前向きな言葉を添えているのが素晴らしい。(勉強のために、他の方のインスタのコメントを抜粋しておりますが…公開されている内容だし、問題はない、ですよね…???)
- 「谷村さんは、客席の中に村上さんを見つけて、嬉しかったのではないでしょうか。出るはずだったコンサートを、チケットを自腹で買って見に行くのはなかなかできることではないので。」
- 「あのとき突き放して(クビにして)くれたから、今のゴスがあるんですね。」
- 「忘れることはできない、苦い思い出の1ページですね…。谷村さんが見られなくなった今後のゴスの活躍は、私たちファンが代わりにしっかりと見守らせていただきます! 少しずつでも、村上さんの悲しみが鎮まりますように…。」
- 「貴重なエピソードありがとうございます。村上さんにとっては、辛く悔しい出来事だったのかもしれませんが、ゴスペラーズの活動のためにご自身を律していこうとされる、大きな出来事だったのですね。谷村さん、これからは空から見守ってくださいますよ。真摯に音楽に向き合う村上さんを、ゴスペラーズを、これからも応援します。」
- 「谷村さんがいらっしゃって、厳しい対応をされて、それを忘れない、という心構えを持たれていた村上さんだから、そんなお二人だったから、今があるのですね。」
波が上下するように、雨が降ったり日がさしたりするように、夏が来たり冬が来たりするように。そんな、たゆたうような気持ちで、自分が恵まれている、あらゆるものを数えて感謝して、過ごしていきたい。
A post by Gospellers Murakami-san's Instagram had words of condolence for Mr. Shinji Tanimura, a famous singer, and their memories.
https://www.instagram.com/p/Cygh7erJRNY/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
But their first encounter was a bitter one. Murakami-san and Kurosawa-san, who were still university students, were asked to sing in the chorus at Tanimura-san's concert, but were fired for being late for the rehearsal. Wanting to make this lesson truly learnt, Murakami-san went to see the concert he was supposed to be at on his own dime, buying a ticket, and he was overwhelmed by both Tanimura-san's singing and the enthusiasm of the audience. He was filled with astonishment, embarrassment, and guilt. Time passed, and when the Gospellers began to sell out, Tanimura-san kindly told them "You guys have power in your singing voice. Keep up the good work! And don't be late again," They occasionally performed together and had meals together from time to time. It is because of these things that the Gospellers are so humble!
As an adult, it is rare to meet someone who would scold you with love. Most of them they would just shut up and walk away when you do something wrong. You have to have tremendous generousity and care to scold, forgive, guide, and support someone. I think that is why Murakami-san repented and realized that he had to cherish this precious relationship with him.
Now that Tanimura-san is gone, he must feel a great sense of loss because he has lost a front-runner whom he admired and looked up to as a role model. I hope that Murakami-san can stay in the circle of those who can share his grief.
Because it is rare to find someone who will go out of their way to scold you with love, I think it is a good idea to ask someone you care about how they feel about your words and actions, whether they find anything offensive or annoying. It is very gratifying to have someone who is willing to go out of their way to tell you what they actually think and feel, to make waves, and to try to build a good relationship with you... (if what they say is to the point). Though the moment you are told, you may be struggling to defend yourself, and such a reaction is natural, but if you know that, you can take a breath and listen to them.
By the way, I was amazed that the comments on Murakami-san's post are full of kindness and compassion. How can you give such a wonderful responses...? Are they all counselors? I would love to be like this. So, I studied their method a little bit and found that they summarized what they heard from the other person and added positive words on top of it. For the sake of learning, I am excerpting some of the comments posted...there should be no problem because they are all publicly posted, I believe...?)
- Tanimura-san must have been happy to find you in the audience. It's not easy to buy a ticket with your own money to go see a concert that you were supposed to be in.
- He was so kind to teach you a lesson and fire you then, and that's why Gosspellers is where it is today."
- It's a page of bitter memories that you will never forget, isn't it. We, the fans, will be watching closely on behalf of Tanimura-san for the future activities of Gospellers, which he will no longer be able to see! Little by little, may Murakami-san's sadness be quelled...
- Thank you for sharing this precious anecdote. It may have been a painful and frustrating event for you, but it was a big event that made you determined to discipline yourself for the sake of Gospellers' activities. Tanimura-san, from now on, will watch over you from the sky. I will continue to support you and the Gospellers as they face their music with sincerity.
- Murakami-san, you were prepared to deal with Tanimura-san's presence and his harsh treatment, and you never forgot it, so it was the two of you that brought us to where we are today.
It is hard to think of grief as something that should be quelled as soon as possible or something that is better not exist, so we should try to think of it as a part of life, instead. Grief is something that allows us to understand other people's feelings. It enables us to embrace happiness wholeheartedly and try to "savor" it as an incredible event. The word "savor" is something I learned from Dr. Tomy, a psychiatrist, but it has stayed with me for some time.
Just like there are ups and downs of waves, rain and sun, summer and winter. I would like to spend my time with such a swaying, counting and appreciating all the things I am blessed with.
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